What’s A Daddy Dominant?

What’s A Daddy Dominant?

What’s A Daddy Dominant? A Daddy-Dom is simply the Dominant partner in a D/s relationship. Like a Master or Dom, a Daddy is the top in their relationship and owns or cares for the submissive. Depending on your own personal preferences and relationship dynamic, a Daddy can be many things to his little but there are some generalities that exist in most Daddy/little relationships.

What's A Daddy Dominant? BDSM
What’s A Daddy Dominant? BDSM
 
His love for his baby girl goes without question. He loves her as much for who she is, as for what she will become with His guidance.
she is …… His prized possession. a Daddy’s eyes will light up when she comes into a room and take great pride in her success’s. After all, He helped to create her. She holds the most tender part of His heart and has greatest power to hurt Him.
 
This love would not be possible without respect. A Daddy Dom needs to feel pride in his lil girl. He needs to know she can hold her own in the outside world and still submit to Him. He holds the greatest respect for the gift she has given Him and takes great pains to increase it’s value. It is extremely important to Him to know she can be with any man and she chooses to be with Him.
 
He knows that this makes discipline a priority in their lives, His discipline is more important than in some other D/s relationships. In order for the lil girl to really trust, she must know He means what He says. If His lil girl is going to be the best she can possibly be He must stand firm. He uses his experience in life and His knowledge of her to provide proper direction and punishment when the need arises.
 
If He does not enforce discipline, this respect becomes a tenuous thing. If His submissive finds that she can manipulate Him out of punishing her, she begins to lose respect and the ability to empower becomes impeded. He understands that it becomes increasingly difficult to be possessed by someone you do not respect.
 
This takes great strength on His part. It takes strength to control her, and to shape her to His needs and desires. It takes strength to be her confidant, her shoulder, her anchor. It takes strength to let her out into the world when all He wants to do is hold her safe in His arms. And it takes strength to do what is necessary when she needs to be disciplined.
 
A Daddy Dom provides something else that is very important to His submissive…acceptance. She is safe in His arms because He knows her, everything about her, and He still loves her. When she goes to Him she knows that this Man knows all of her dirty little secrets and it doesn’t matter. To Him she is and always will be beautiful.
 
A Daddy Dom and a Sadistic Dom are by no means mutually exclusive. Many Daddy Doms embrace their sadism while understanding and feeding their submissive’s masochism. This balance is necessary to many lil girls because it allows all parts of her to be nourished, leading to an incredibly fulfilling relationship.
 
I think most Dominants have a bit of the Daddy in them, taking on the role of Male authority figure in the submissive’s life and using their power to enrich that life. Daddy/lil girl verbalizes that feeling, and adds a dimension of warmth, caring, and ritual that it’s participants crave.
 
Perhaps a Daddy Dom is something only a lil girl can understand.
 

Daddy as a Father

Unlike age players or role players, Daddies do not consider themselves a father to their little. They consider their role much like how a Dom would look at their role over their sub. Though their little may call them Daddy, they are not observed as a father and they don’t look at their little as if they were their child.

What do Daddy-Doms Do?

Daddies are in charge of their little. While they do not pretend to be their little’s father, they will take on a parental role as the Dominant. They are there to protect, guide, nurture and love their little. While in some D/s relationships, the Dominate may order their submissive frivolously for their own pleasure, a Daddy will order or set rules for their little based on nurturing goals and what is best for their little.

What's A Daddy Dominant? BDSM
What’s A Daddy Dominant? BDSM

Why do Daddies like littles?

This can be asked the same for any relationship. Daddies like little’s based on their own personal likes and dislikes and what they find attractive. A Daddy should enjoy the regression that their little naturally does and appreciate the child-like attributes of their little, but they will also find their adult side attractive.

 

The Title Daddy

There is a big difference between Daddy as a title for a Dominant in a D/s relationship and Daddy as a title for a father. While many have some reservations about this title, it is nothing more than that: a title. Daddies are not interested in pedophilia, incest or any other paraphernalia associated with children even though their title is often misunderstood and associated with that.  When a little calls her Daddy by title, the feeling associated is nothing like the feeling she would get when she calls her father the same title. It’s the same with any other multi-use word in our language. For instance, the world love can be used to describe many things. You don’t have the same feelings for when you say you love bubbles as you do when you say you love your spouse.

What's A Daddy Dominant? BDSM
What’s A Daddy Dominant? BDSM

Daddies and Sex

A lot of people just starting out in this lifestyle wonder if it’s still okay to have sex. As two consenting partners in a loving relationship, sex should be normal. Just like any other relationship, sex is natural and healthy for growth and bonding. Sex in a Daddy/little relationship is not done like that of role players where the sexual attraction may in some cases stem from deep seeded interest in incest or pedophilia. Sex between a Daddy and his little is just like sex between any people in a relationship; as two consenting adults.

Daddy-Dom v. Master

Daddies are very similar to Masters but there are some striking differences. First, Daddies cherish their submissive’s little side and encourage her to come out and play. Second, Daddies are strict about different things. Where a Master may be strict about procedure and protocol, Daddies are more concerned with their submissive’s goals and needs. Third, a Daddy can be more playful than most Masters. Masters tend to have to be more rigid with their submissive or slaves. Of course, we aren’t saying Masters are unable to show affection or be playful. But as a Daddy, playfulness is practically a part of the job description. It’s something you would have to do in order to keep up with your little.

A list of terms and simple definitions for the CGl world.

Not sure about CGL go here first.

Acronyms-

DD– Daddy Dominant
MD– Mommy Domme
CG– Caregiver
LG– Little girl
LB– Little Boy
LO– Little One
CGL– Caregiver & Little
DDlg– Daddy Dom & little girl
DDlb– Daddy Dom & little boy
MDlg– Mommy Domme & little girl
MDlb– Mommy Domme & little boy
ABDL– Adult Baby Diaper Lover
AB– Adult Baby
DL– Diaper Lover
LDR– Long Distance Relationship
SSC– Safe Sane consensual
RACK– Risk Aware Consensual Kink
BDSM– Bondage/Discipline Dominant/Submissive Sadism/Masochism
D/s– Dominant/submissive
NSFW– Not Safe For Work
SFW– Safe for Work
SO– Significant Other

Vocabulary-

Little– a little is a person who mentally (or physically) feels younger than they physically are. The term little is often a broad spectrum. It can cover all types of individuals who feel they are younger than their physical age. A little is roughly around the ages of 0-12. We don’t set these ages in stone because not every little has an age and not every little feels they represent the above listed age.

Middle- a middle is a person who mentally (or physically) feels younger than they physically are. The term middle can fall under the little broad spectrum term. It is also known as Lolita & Nymphet. They tend to be mentally older than littles, more around the teen ages. So around 13-17. Once again ages are not set in stone because not every middle has a set age and not ever middle feels they represent the above listed age.

Dominant– An individual who is the “top” in a BDSM relationship or BDSM spectrum relationship. They tend to be the person who makes the rules, and doles out the punishment. They are also the protector of their submissive.

Submissive– A Submissive is an individual who is the “bottom” in a BDSM or BDSM spectrum relationship. They tend to be the person who receives the punishment and have to follow the enforced rules. They are the protected.

Switch– An individual who enjoys being both a Dominant and a submissive. They are known as a switch because they “switch” roles sometimes within their relationship or with a different partner.

Daddy Dom– a person who prefers a masculine identifying title, sometimes takes on the role of a Dominant but can be the submissive as well. Usually the caretaker for a little.

Mommy Domme– a person who prefers a feminine identifying title, sometimes takes on the role of a Dominant but can be submissive as well. Usually the caretaker for a little.

Caregiver– a non gender specific title that represents someone who sometimes takes on the role of a Dominant but can be a submissive. Usually a person who takes on a care taking/caregiving role to a little.

Master– A term that is used for a person who tends to only strictly play a Dominant role. They can be the Dominant of a little, submissive, or pet.

Big– Another non gender specific title that represents someone who sometimes take on the role of a Dominant but can be a submissive.

Little space– The head space a little finds themselves in during their transition, regression or when they become their little persona. Some littles are always littles and always in little space. For others it’s something to regress into.

Middle space– The head space a Middle finds themselves in during their transition, regression or when they become their Middle persona. Some Middles are always Middles and are always in middle space. For others it’s something they regress into.

Agender- Someone who has no gender. They are genderless.

Gender Fluid– A person who flows between gender. They tend to not have a set gender preference. One day they feel one way, another day they feel another way.

Gender Neutral– A term that does not specify gender. It does not favor male nor female.

Genderqueer- An umbrella term for all genders other than man and woman, or someone who simply identifies as another gender, a queer gender.

Sister– A term commonly used in Poly families, for a person who Identifies as female and is an addition to the CGL group. They can also be a little, middle or ABDL but not always.

Brother–  A term commonly used in Poly families, for a person who identifies as a male and is an addition to the CGL group. They can also be a little, middle or ABDL, but not always.

ABDL– As stated above ABDL means Adult Baby Diaper Lover, people who identify themselves as an ABDL will commonly wear diapers and prefer to be treated as more infantile/baby/toddler ages. If a person wants to be treated like a baby but does not want to wear diapers they will call themselves an AB if an individual enjoys wearing diapers but not being treated like a baby they will often refer to themselves as a DL

Androgynous- A style of clothing or appearance, androgyny is also a type of genderqueer, the state of being in between man and woman, or both man and woman.

Demiboy-Someone partly a boy, and partly something else, without defining that other part.

Demigirl– Someone partly a girl, and partly something else, without defining that other part.

Sexuality Terms & Defintions-

Poly– An individual who is capable of loving more than one person at once. They prefer the company of multiple people but not necessarily all at once. They also are not always sexually involved with their poly family members. It can be a non sexual relationship.

Heterosexual– A person who is sexually attracted to an individual of the opposite sex.

Gay/Lesbian– (better term other than homosexual???) An individual who is attracted to the same sex.

Bisexual– A person who is sexually attracted to individuals in the same sex as well as the opposite sex.

Asexual– A person who has no sexual feelings or desires towards another person.

Pansexual– An individual who has the ability to be sexually attracted to a person no matter their gender.

Aromantic– A person who lacks the desire or interest in romantic feelings towards another person.

Panromantic– An individual who has the ability to be romantically attracted to a person no matter their gender.

Demisexual–  An individual who does not experience sexual attraction unless they form a strong emotional connection with someone.

Demiromantic– An individual who only experiences romantic attraction after developing an emotional connection beforehand.

Kinks and their definitions-

Pet Play- a form of role playing that involves a person taking on the role of a pet and another taking on the role of the Master. Common examples are kitten, puppy and pony.

Teacher/student- A form of role play that involves a person taking on the role of a student and the other the role of a teacher and acting out a sometimes sexual scenario.

Rope Play- A kink that is not always sexual in nature but involves a person being bound, suspended, or tied in some fashion with ropes.

Impact Play- A kink that involves spanking, flogging, cropping, paddling, or anything that involves “impact” on the body. (most commonly used in the CGL realm as spanking) This kink is not always a sexual kink.

Wax Play– A kink that involves playing with heated and melted wax in safe conditions. Where an individual willingly pours hot wax (specialty bought for this purpose) on their partner or themselves. Certain waxes need to be used to prevent harm. This kink is not always sexual in nature.

Age Play– a type of role play where an individual acts out an age younger than they physically are. They are playing out a role. Because of this they are not considered littles.

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